Our Very First Bull

Our very first meeting with a prospective bull is something I have never talked about on here.  It was with a guy we will refer to as Bull J or J.  We met Bull J literally as we came out of the womb.  It is only by sheer luck and grace that we fell into his life and he fell into ours. 

And, because of how he treated us and taught us and explored with us all with no judgments and pure curiosity, Bull J will always have a special place in our hearts. 

This is Bull J's mantra and it's a LOT of fun!

He is like no other man I have ever met.  He is at once the most dominant man you will come across and the most caring and submissive man.  I mean that in only the most positive light.  He seeks our pleasure.  He also get s his from pushing our limits and comfort zones.  Be sure, when we are all together, there is no doubt WHO is in control.  It is never really even talked about.  He never lords it over me nor boasts about it.  In fact, he shows great care for me.  It is hard to describe.  In return, I would run in front of a train to save him.  He engenders that kind of commitment because I know he too is committed - to us.  The highest praise I can give J is that I trust him, and I don't say that lightly. 

And, once you have trust, real trust, the fun can really begin.  With that security, there is nothing to fear.  I feel I can truly look after Syd's needs and his needs because I know my needs will also be looked after.  It is not something I expect, it is something I just know will happen.

Notice I am not using the usual caps for Dom and lower case for subs.  That is because that is how Bull J would like it.  He doesn't see our triad in labels but in connections.  Whenever I would ask him something like, "So, do you see yourself as a dominant or bull or master or..."  He would respond something like, "Dude, you read too much.  I'm J."  That's his way of saying we aren't this or that, we are just people.  We are sexual beings.  And, we will play together and have fun. 

When I began this journey I always knew Syd had a dominant streak.  I also knew that she could experience more sexually than I was providing her.  When we met with J the first time, I think he quickly surmised just how new to all this we were.  It was during this first session I learned about the g spot.  After 48 years living, it was waaaaaaaaay overdue, just ask Syd.

He had his fingers inside her and said, "Come over here and look at this."  And he proceeded to give me an in person teaching on the g spot and how to bring a woman to a squirting orgasm.  Syd probably felt like some medical specimen, but he knew just how important it was for us as a couple.  I didn't know.  He knew and was willing to share with me to make our marriage better.

And since that point, I have been voraciously digesting any piece of information I can get my hands on about the female orgasm - the g spot, the a spot, I was in a whole new world and a whole new playground.  And, Syd has loved everything I have tried on her.  I learned from Bull J to communicate to Syd as I was doing it, "How does this feel?  Am I hitting the right spot?  Where do you want me to move to?"  And, of course, Syd LOVES it!!!  She always mentions something like, "Ah, I see you have been doing some research.  Keep it up!"

J brought a certain freedom to our lovemaking that wasn't present before.  I remember the first time after our first meeting with Bull J that Syd and I had sex and she had her period.  Blood was everywhere.  Before J, I would have run off to the bathroom to get a towel to "clean up."  This time, I reveled in it, told Syd how great it was to feel her blood on me and I even wiped it on my body just wanting to feel all of it.  It turned from a dirty unhealthy thing for us to a dirty NASTY good thing for us all with a change of attitude.  And, I learned that from him.

Ok, I know my posts tend to be long, and S always reminds me of that.

So, there will be more about J later.  But, I want you all to know, we are closer as a couple because of him.

Fear and think of me OR Love and think of others?

i hope this picture illustrates how i feel about relationships in general and cuckold relationships in particular.

Which one will you choose?

Baby

Anyone reading this seeing the title "Baby" might set their minds to wandering.  Wandering down the path of an intense, perhaps the most intense aspect of cuckoldry.  And, without saying it, i know you know what i mean.

This is something i would say every cuckold at one point or another has fantasized about.  When they thought about it, it lit their passions and struck at their very core.  Would their wife or wouldn't they, I mean REALLY?  Would they??

i was recently faced with just this question and the answer startled me.

It all started innocently enough.  S and i were playing and i called her "Baby."  As in, "oh Baby, You like how that feels?"  In 20 years of marriage, i don't think i ever called Her "Baby."  That was until about 2 months ago when all this started.  We met S's bull.  We will call him J.  i will have to write an entire post or more about Bull J.  But one of the things i learned from him was how he called S "Baby" and how She responded to it.  i liked it.  i liked the name, loved the closeness it encapsulated.  So, i too took to calling Her "Baby" especially during play time and sometimes just in normal conversation.

i liked the intimacy of which it spoke even though i admit i did feel a bit uneasy about using it.  Why?  It seemed every time i heard it elsewhere, it was from some dominant who was saying it to S whether in person or texting or chatting online.  Unbeknownst to me, this must be a favorite pet name of dominant's for their ladies.

i admit i liked using it, but it never quite rolled off my tongue naturally.

So, again, there we were, in the middle of play, and there i was calling S "Baby" in a sexual context.

She stopped everything, cold.

Right there in the middle.

She was so wet.

i was so hard.

And, She took my face into Her dominant hands and looked me straight in the eyes.

What She said next would totally rock my world.

"Listen," She continued, "you are never to call Me that again.  I never want to hear you call Me that name anymore.  That name is reserved for dominant bulls to call Me (i.e., you are not a dominant).  Do you understand?"

i replied meekly, "Yes, Mistress, i understand."

That was it, the end of me using the name "Baby" with S.  i am quite sure it will never happen again.  i have thought about using the term again since but knew it just wasn't right.  And, every time i think about using it, which is fairly often at this point, it is an internal act of submission to not use it and it makes me feel very good inside but also gives me the slightest pit in my stomach.  Things have changed.  Things will change.  i wonder what will be the next thing i tell you about that i cannot do because it would be inappropriate for a submissive cuckold husband to do with his Wife.  Stay tuned!

PS.  So, in the beginning of this post, the question was whether or not i would be able to call her "Baby."  i don't know what YOU were thinking!!!

Multifacetedmoi.com - Female Centric Relationship and Contemporary Cuckoldry

i began my journey towards chastity and a female led relationship years ago.  Mostly as voyeur and fantasist, i never thought my fantasies could become reality with my Wife.

Chastity and a cuckold marriage always seemed so unattainable to me.  i thought it would be unattainable because any sites i saw on the matter, always included a heavy dose of porn and crazy talk and if i did garner the courage to show my wife those websites, i was sure she would dismiss the idea out of hand because of the material.

So, i knew i probably had one chance at this and thankfully (!) i waited.  Because, after i found Ms. M’s website (multifacetedmoi.com), i knew i had struck gold.  Her delivery of the subject was mature and balanced and sane.  She explains chastity in a way that grabbed me hook, line, and sinker.  And, after reading every morsel i could find on her site, i set up an appointment to speak with her and to gain some coaching.  Well, within one week i was in a cb-6000s with S's full support and after my Wife read Ms. M.’s site, She was even more thrilled to make this a part of our marriage.

This idea was fantasy for a number of years.  It was my contacting Ms. M. that turned it from fantasy to reality.  My mind is still spinning from the changes that are being played out in our marriage.

So, i know my introduction to cuckoldry found its genesis in Luvr's website, cuckoldmarriage.info, and it was there i learned about cuckoldry, chastity, and a female led marriage.  It was M's site, multifacetedmoi.com, that turned that all around for me in understanding that the female led marriage would have to come first.  She created the term of the The FCR Concept^TM or Female Centric Relationship.  She also created a phrase Contemporary Cuckoldry^TM.  She defines Contemporary Cuckoldry^TM as "a completely consensual, female-centric relationship design. It is one of many relationship designs that can be improved and enhanced by applying The FCR Concept^TM."  She adds, "Contemporary Cuckoldry^TM is not hotwifing, sissification, degradation, or manipulating one's partner into doing what you want to feed into a self-gratifying fetish.  It is not "implanting" ideas in someone's head to get them to cuckold you. It is not infidelity or deceiving your partner."

M has been a terrific mentor for both S and me.  And now that we are fully engaged in a female led marriage and living the cuckoldry lifestyle, S find great stimulation from reading Luvr's site.  In fact, he is one of her favorite writers.

So it has come full circle, these two sites without the guidance of Luvr and M, we would not be where we are in our marriage which is to say happier than we have ever been and having the best sex of our lives!

If you are serious about wanting to live a female led relationship and a cuckold lifestyle, you HAVE to go to these two sites:

• cuckoldmarriage.info
• multifacetedmoi.com

This is where the reality of the lifestyles will happen for you.  The rest is fantasy.

husband-lover-best friend-slave, right?

Today, S and i were talking about things and it led into a discussion of our roles.  i offered that i saw myself as her husband, lover, best friend and slave.  i added that i saw it kind of in that order.  i was feeling very good about including "slave" in the list, wondering almost if She saw it the same way.

She looked at me kind of quizzically as if to say, really?

Inside, i was wondering if i had gone too far.

She looked me straight in the eye and said, "Hun, things have changed.  Your order is all wrong.  You are my slave first.  The rest come after that for sure.  You understand that, right?"

This was much more of a statement to me than a question, and i knew it.  Blood immediately rushed to my dick and all i could say was, "Yes, Mistress."

And, She added, "And just so you know, I don't view this as some role for some scene or game, this is the way we are living now."