Our very first meeting with a
prospective bull is something I have never talked about on here. It was with a guy we will refer to as Bull J
or J. We met Bull J literally as we came
out of the womb. It is only by sheer
luck and grace that we fell into his life and he fell into ours.
And, because of how he treated us and
taught us and explored with us all with no judgments and pure curiosity, Bull J
will always have a special place in our hearts.
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| This is Bull J's mantra and it's a LOT of fun! |
He is like no other man I have ever
met. He is at once the most dominant man
you will come across and the most caring and submissive man. I mean that in only the most positive
light. He seeks our pleasure. He also get s his from pushing our limits and
comfort zones. Be sure, when we are all
together, there is no doubt WHO is in control.
It is never really even talked about.
He never lords it over me nor boasts about it. In fact, he shows great care for me. It is hard to describe. In return, I would run in front of a train to
save him. He engenders that kind of
commitment because I know he too is committed - to us. The highest praise I can give J is that I
trust him, and I don't say that lightly.
And, once you have trust, real trust,
the fun can really begin. With that
security, there is nothing to fear. I
feel I can truly look after Syd's needs and his needs because I know my needs
will also be looked after. It is not
something I expect, it is something I just know will happen.
Notice I am not using the usual caps for
Dom and lower case for subs. That is
because that is how Bull J would like it.
He doesn't see our triad in labels but in connections. Whenever I would ask him something like,
"So, do you see yourself as a dominant or bull or master or..." He would respond something like, "Dude,
you read too much. I'm J." That's his way of saying we aren't this or
that, we are just people. We are sexual
beings. And, we will play together and
have fun.
When I began this journey I always knew
Syd had a dominant streak. I also knew
that she could experience more sexually than I was providing her. When we met with J the first time, I think he
quickly surmised just how new to all this we were. It was during this first session I learned
about the g spot. After 48 years living,
it was waaaaaaaaay overdue, just ask Syd.
He had his fingers inside her and said,
"Come over here and look at this."
And he proceeded to give me an in person teaching on the g spot and how
to bring a woman to a squirting orgasm.
Syd probably felt like some medical specimen, but he knew just how
important it was for us as a couple. I
didn't know. He knew and was willing to
share with me to make our marriage better.
And since that point, I have been
voraciously digesting any piece of information I can get my hands on about the
female orgasm - the g spot, the a spot, I was in a whole new world and a whole
new playground. And, Syd has loved
everything I have tried on her. I
learned from Bull J to communicate to Syd as I was doing it, "How does
this feel? Am I hitting the right
spot? Where do you want me to move
to?" And, of course, Syd LOVES
it!!! She always mentions something
like, "Ah, I see you have been doing some research. Keep it up!"
J brought a certain freedom to our
lovemaking that wasn't present before. I
remember the first time after our first meeting with Bull J that Syd and I had
sex and she had her period. Blood was
everywhere. Before J, I would have run
off to the bathroom to get a towel to "clean up." This time, I reveled in it, told Syd how
great it was to feel her blood on me and I even wiped it on my body just
wanting to feel all of it. It turned
from a dirty unhealthy thing for us to a dirty NASTY good thing for us all with
a change of attitude. And, I learned
that from him.
Ok, I know my posts tend to be long, and
S always reminds me of that.
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